Dear OPRAH.

Dear Oprah,

first let me say that I respect you as a business woman, you started from nothing and built an tremendous empire, much respect. I also grew up in a house where all the women watched your talk show, even though it never interested me I tuned in every now and then. When you came out with your O magazine I saw it in every hair salon, grocery store and on some of my aunts coffee tables and yes I found myself flipping through once in awhile.

The other day, I was checking out my Instagram like I always do, every minute, every second, every hour, I am addicted. I notice on my feed that the entire plus size community wanted your head on a stick roasting on a crackling fire, like a melting marshmallow. So, of course I did my research because I wanted to know what was going on and then my oriential doe shaped eyes got as wide as it would let me, shocked!!! After that, anger decided to set in and I was pissed, for the life of me I couldn't understand why you would allow something so ignorant and plain out disrespectful be written and published in your magazine. My feeling aren't hurt but I was simply baffled at what was written, I thought that a woman such as yourself who has been judged and criticized would have known better, would see that this comment is wrong. So many girls, young women and adult women have suffered with body image such as Karen Carpenter, Janet Jackson, yourself, Hayden Panettiere Demi Lovato and some people close to me. So many of these women and future women look in the mirror, stare at themselves and see something horrible looking back at them, I have learned that words are so powerful and can destroy a person mentally and physically.

I know what it is like to be judged and have people always commenting on your size, saying things like my size has restrictions I can't fit into a old ass broke down raggedy Jeep, I can't go zip lining or just by looking at me they can see how unhealthy I am and what my future is going to eventually look like, everyone wants to play the role of God, but God will never do or say anything to make his people feel bad about themselves whether they are fat, skinny, gay, white, black, or even if they look different, He is all about love, so why do we try to hurt each other with vicious words?

We are living in a new era where the younger generation, my generation just doesn't care anymore, we are doing what we want, loving who we want and being open with our lives, it is safe to say that we are the example of an open book. Like so many, when the same sex marriage law was finally passed it was a joyous day, maybe one day the next step will be selflove day. A day of loving yourself, appreciating yourself and respecting yourself and most importantly respecting others.

So this post is dedicated to you, showing you that even though I am a BIG girl, yes I can wear a cropped top,  even though I am a FAT girl with rolls yes, I can wear a cropped top, yes even though I am a plus-size girl with no stretch marks I can still wear a cropped top because I LOVE ME and I am confident and God made me this way and simply my dearest Oprah, I don't give a damn what you and others think I should and shouldn't wear I'm pleasing me and when I look into my mirror there is a smiling face looking back at me.

We all make mistakes but the lesson is learning from it and growing, I hope that you see that no matter what size or shape you are and once you have self love and confidence nothing can stop you from doing or wearing what you want, cause its not stopping me or any other fat girl.

Sincerely,
Joei Saint Lovers aka FatbellyChanel.



To my readers,

The set up of my page is a bit different this time but listed below are outfit and makeup details and remember to love yourself and walk in a world full of negativity with confidence in yourself don't expect any body to hand you confidence on a silver platter that comes from within and glows on the outside for the world to see.

Outfit details
Crop Top - designer
Jeans - Asos
Shoes - Payless
Watch - MK
Earrings - F21
Glasses - Yersie

Makeup details
Primer - Cover FX - illuminating
Foundation - KVD deep 74
Concealer - KVD deep38
Eyebrows - ABH (Anastasia of Beverly Hills)
Cheeks - MUFE - Duo pro Sculpting in #2
               KVD Contour kit for under eye highlighting
               MAC - Darkest deep powder for light contouring
Eyes - Benefit They're Real Mascara
Lips - Smashbox Infrared Matte lipstick
Setting - MAC translucent powder
               KVD setting mist